a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

4 Knights of Divorce

We’re doing TV shows again today.  🙂  Can you tell there’s a bit of escapism happening in my life at the moment? My favourite historical show is Outlander.  Is it historical if it’s time travel?  Let me know your thoughts. BUT – I have mixed feelings about the latest season….Plus, they’re releasing it one episode […]

How the Four Sneaky Horsemen Want to Ruin Your Relationship

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boundaries arent selfish

I don’t not like it.I don’t not care which restaurant we go to.We can go wherever you want for dinner – (unsaid: but it needs to be in my budget which you should instinctively know).  You choose.You need to do your best and get good marks.You can do what you want but there will be […]

Think Boundaries are Selfish? Do You Ask Clearly For What You Need?

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Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex is tough—really tough. It sucks balls, and it is hard. Leaving the kids for visits can be heartbreaking. I personally remember crying in the driveway of their house – well, I actually drove a few doors down – but I sat and had to fight the urge to rush in […]

Are You Ready to Co-Parent Healthy Children with a Narcissistic Ex?

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end my marriage

I’m going to hit you with a set of clues, and you can decide which one was the decider for my 1st marriage ending: Choosing “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” as our wedding song- the lyrics “everybody needs a little time away” Me saying “It’s not my fault you are such a stupid human being” […]

The Eye-Opening Day Bruce Willis Ended My 10 Year Marriage

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couple fight blame

  There’s a whole different set of clients that I often see quite often.  Not Jack & Diane from yesterday.   More Mortal Kombat.  God, I loved that game.  I think my computer game addiction began right back in the 90s with the Nintendo, Mortal Kombat and Sonic.  Not so much Atari – that was boring as […]

Do You Fight Like Judge Judy or Mortal Kombat?

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feeling alone in my relationship

The weather is pretty shitty today – here in Queensland.  Dark, rainy – just glum really. If a day could have an emotion – and I like to think they do – today is lonely. How do I know – well, I spent a hell of a lot of my childhood lonely.  Mostly because I […]

Why am I so crazy lonely and confused when I’ve got a partner?

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does he love me

  I remember sitting on the grass at Primary School, eating my sandwiches when my eyes were opened to the whole concept of love. I’m not even sure if I’d had a crush on anyone by then.  I did have some pretty cute cousins and Uncles whose attention made me blush – I know – […]

My Crazy Little Crush On My Cousin And What You Need to Feel Loved.

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Rejection. Abandonment. Fear of rejection

  Don’t Leave Me This Way… I’m scared shitless of rejection. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t. It paralyses me. Even when you guys unsubscribe – I have to catch myself. I’m going to guess that 90% of the people I chat with are making decisions from a place of fear.  Fear of […]

What Have You Actually Sacrificed To Avoid Rejection?

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unhappy with marriage

I’ve just plopped myself in a big old comfy chair. Dinner is cooking.  And I feel like a cuddly old Grandma who is about to open a dusty book from the shelf – and tell you a story.Listen up, kids.  I’m about to tell you an age-old tale – from generations ago to now. It […]

My Jack And Diane Story

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