PERFECTLY IMPERFECT LIVING AND ZEN-ASS PARENTING - CORRECTING CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT BEFORE AND AFTER IT HAPPENS

HEY THERE

 

So, so glad you have landed on my website.  Welcome to an amazing community of parents who wonder if they are f$$$$ing up their kids and who have the courage to say it.  What champions.

Firstly and most obviously I am in the early stages of changing my focus to parenting so please be patient and sign up to the newsletter to get all the juicy blog posts that will be about parenting.  There are only a few at the moment but I have listened and am changing my focus to support all you brave and amazing parents.  The other half of my blogs are for you as a person.   Not a parent.  A PERSON.

Now for the fun bit.  Working with parents and kids BEFORE any Childhood Emotional Neglect can cause lasting changes.  I love this part the most because kids are so bloody amazing.  I love every single second I spend finding out their individual gifts and helping parents find the best ways to communicate with them.  They are super quick to accept new changes and it is often something tiny that can help your child feel emotionally connected and it is my mission to find it for you. Then you can use it again and again and again. Even when you can hardly keep your eyes open you can use it to diffuse those nuclear explosions that noone talks about enough.

No matter what mistakes we’ve made as parents or think we have made, they can be fixed.  There is nothing that makes me smile more than when a kid obviously feels understood and heard. They light up like the sun. Children are just amazing and resilient and respond to changes almost immediately.  As soon as we change what we are giving them, they will change.  Truly. I have seen it time and time again.  The more you move into your own beauty as a mum, the more your children will naturally change toward positive feelings and behaviour.  Every single difference is what makes you special. You are not meant to be like “the other mums”.  Your kids need you to be YOU.

I totally get how tired you are and how incredibly time-strapped.  I had five kids at home at one point and felt like I completely lost myself.  You are seriously considering getting a deadlock for the toilet door, have learnt to be very quiet so you can’t be found and sometimes go and sit in the car in the garage just to have a drink.  A big drink.

Not one of my kids was (is) a mini-me so I was trying really hard to understand where the bleep these strange personalities emerged from and what the bleep I was meant to do with them.

Let’s speak “kid” and start reacting to them as very important, individual lovely souls so they  feel understood and – wham – they relax.  They feel heard.  This is all they ask of you. They will find a special place in the family that is just theirs and learn to celebrate everything that is especially theirs.  Let’s watch them blossom and gain incredible strength in themselves.  Much better for friendships, much better for kindy and school (which are such soul-destroying places for a lot of kids) and much better as they grown into teenagers.  You HAVE to learn to communicate before those hormones kick in. Trust me

Once you learn that what they wear, how they do at school. how they are feeling (we need to let them feel and identify EVERY emotion in a safe place), if they fit in, where they fit in, the colour of their hair, if it’s hard to keep clothes on them, if they won’t eat healthy food….once you learn that all of this says nothing about you as a parent then YOU can relax. And when you relax…..they relax. Getting my theme yet?

Let’s show you the basic things kids need so you can let go of all the crap that people tell you you should be doing.  Mostly – let’s get rid of the useless guilt. Purlease – no one else knows your kids like you and, trust me. your kids already think you are wonderful.  I am assuming here that the hormonal chemicals of death have not kicked in.  If they have – we can help with that too.

I have been a birth mum, working mum, stay at home mum, step mum, single mum, super frazzled mum and often even “wondered if I was cut out to be a mum at all” mum. I remember when I first got pregnant at 21 and sat there thinking “F$$$ me. How am I supposed to do this? ”  Relate?  We will be sharing stories, crying with you, yelling with you, laughing with you and most importantly helping you with courses and resources to set your mind at ease.  Just the fact you are here means that you care and that is one huge step in being an amazing parent.

Every person, parent and child are gorgeously diverse. Individual, wonderful souls. Some things, of course, are common to all of us, but the way we react to food, treatments, substances, drugs, different exercises. emotions – anything really –  is just so different for everyone. The goal of my work is to help build you a personalised toolkit to have for when life, relationships, parenting and stress happens.

We will be a team.  You and I and all the other amazing peeps who hang here on this website. I absolutely cannot wait to meet you.  Shoot me an email and sign up for my conscious parenting newsletter here.  Any courses, get-togethers, webinars, podcasts and blogs will fly straight to your inbox so you can enjoy them at a cafe, waiting in the school dropoff line or over that cold cup of tea sitting on your bench since this morning.

I am really looking forward to meeting you and hearing about all of the strange and wonderful things your munchkins do.

 

Did YOU score high on the Childhood Emotional Neglect Quiz?

I have spent the majority of my career working with adults who have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect.  We all have examples of how our parents have failed us here and there.  I’ve yet to find a perfect parent or a perfect childhood but it isn’t all these instances that I work with.  Have a read of some of my articles over there to the ⇒ right under “Childhood Emotional Neglect” and if they strike a chord, please do the really, quick quiz, also on the right – all the important things are on the right, lol.

If you feel disconnected or not enough for no obvious reason, chances are high that you will get a score that indicates some level of Childhood Emotional Neglect. If you are looking to take your life and health to the next level I would love to offer you a personalised, complimentary 30-minute consultation.  You deserve to feel and be your best and that’s what I am here to do.

 

 


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