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rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

feeling alone in my relationship

  The weather is pretty shitty today – here in Queensland.  Dark, rainy – just glum really. If a day could have an emotion – and I like to think they do – today is lonely. How do I know – well, I spent a hell of a lot of my childhood lonely.  Mostly because […]

Why am I so crazy lonely and confused when I’ve got a partner?

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change your partner

I know, I know…you just want to help them.  Your motives are pure….(hmm we can talk about that another day).

You want nothing more than to show them what you see so clearly about them.

But it will mess up your relationship.

Good relationships are horizontal.  One line right next to another.  No line higher than the other.

Want to know how to help your partner change? Read this first.

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Apologize

We don’t eat takeaway food a lot.  I could pretend I am all holier than thou and “clean eating” or whatever trend is happening now.  BUT – my man doesn’t like it – or doesn’t like paying for it – or prefers my cooking – something like that.   So I always feel a bit […]

How to Apologize Like You Don’t Mean a Word of it.

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end my marriage

I’m going to hit you with a set of clues, and you can decide which one was the decider for my 1st marriage ending: Choosing “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” as our wedding song- lyrics “everybody needs a little time away” Me saying “It’s not my fault you are such a stupid human being” less […]

The Eye-Opening Day Bruce Willis Ended My 10 Year Marriage

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4 Knights of Divorce

We’re doing TV shows again today.  🙂  Can you tell there’s a bit of escapism happening in my life at the moment? My favourite historical show is Outlander.  Is it historical if it’s time travel?  Let me know your thoughts. BUT – I have mixed feelings about the latest season….Plus, they’re releasing it one episode […]

How the Four Sneaky Horsemen Want to Ruin Your Relationship

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crap relationhip, dismissive avoidant signs

But don’t let Dismissive-Avoidant attachment fool you.

People with Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment can look fiercely independent, or even like Narcissists. But – their problems are usually all about low self-esteem. The same as someone with an Anxious Attachment.

How to Absolutely Crap All Over your Relationships as an Adult.

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Meditation

    My meditation practice began formally when I was about 14 and stumbled onto it myself.  I was always a bit airy, fairy, woozy, doozy, so I read some books on Spirituality and found a type I could do. In hindsight, a very lucky little camper. I do think sitting high in a tree […]

Having trouble meditating? Is there a right way to do it?

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Dealing with parents

  Dealing with parents. I tell you – I’ve had a week of people having to spend some time with parents that they don’t really want to be around. Not sure if it’s the lockdowns or just life. But – I thought – heck Rebecca (I avoided swearing – did you see that?) – you […]

4 revolutionary steps to take when your parents make you feel like S$$t.

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healing childhood emotional neglect

  Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is what didn’t happen to you or for you when you were a kid. The stuff that you needed to properly prepare you for life. It’s when parents don’t meet their children’s emotional needs. And – the problems caused by this can be long-term and last way into adulthood. If […]

How to do the 2nd Amazing Step That Heals Childhood Emotional Neglect.

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