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Anti-depressant Therapy

  “I worry about being in therapy. I worry about not being in therapy”+ I never, ever worried about being told that I would be entering Withdrawal Therapy. Farewell Prozac my old friend.I won’t be seeing you again.Because the years are softly creeping.And I’ve stopped my crazy weeping.And the vision that was planted in my […]

The Day They Took Away my Beautiful, Magical Anti-Depressants.

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I learned so much when I died

I learned so much the day I died. My first memories of what I call my second life are of the movie ‘The Truth About Cats and Dogs’ being played on repeat above my head and the light in the room never being dimmed. For days. And days. And I remember my one thought being, […]

A stroke at 30, and I Couldn’t Be More Grateful

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Dealing with parents

Dealing with parents. I tell you – I’ve had a week of people having to spend some time with parents that they don’t really want to be around. Not sure if it’s the lockdowns or just life. But – I thought – heck Rebecca (I avoided swearing – did you see that?) – you need […]

4 revolutionary steps to take when your parents make you feel like S$$t.

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Secrets. Shame.

The Absolute Truth about Secrets & Shame. It was a beautiful autumn day in a gorgeous, leafy suburb of Sydney.  I was around 7 or 8 and nearly vomiting with anticipation. I can still smell the wet leaves and feel the presence of my dad beside me as we walked up the steep hill from […]

What’s the absolute dirty truth I know about keeping secrets?

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Therapy. Ahhhh.  The word that can put the fear of God into almost anyone. “What brings you in today?” the therapist asked. (They always do. Yep – we’re taught to ask that. I try not to. It annoys me.) The truth was, back then, that there were days when I felt so sad that I […]

18 amazing things I’ve learned about therapy after going for 40 years.

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Quiz. Does your mother have Narcissistic Traits?

Is my Mother a Narcissist?  Something that is on your mind a lot? Do the Quiz. Have you ever felt your Mum could be a Narcissist? This Quiz will help you get an answer!    

Is my mother a Narcissist? Quiz.

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childhood emotional neglect quiz

Childhood Emotional Neglect Quiz     Why should you do the Childhood Emotional Neglect Quiz and find out? In many families, the parents simply fail to notice their child is having a feeling, fail to validate their child’s feelings and fail to ask their child about his/her feelings. Not necessarily all of the time, but […]

Childhood Emotional Neglect Quiz

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Attachment Theory

Attachment theory is a psychological model that was developed in the late 1950s by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. It’s been widely used to study child development, but only recently has it begun to be applied to adult relationships. “About time”, I hear you say. Yes!! The idea of attachment theory is simple enough – […]

It’s a bird, it’s a plane! No, it’s Attachment Theory.

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Narcissistic Mothers: What to watch or read.

Hi. My name is Rebecca and I was addicted to getting my mother’s love and attention. “Hi, Rebecca”. I’m not the only one, and you’re not either. You’ve landed in the right place and I’m so glad you did. You’re among friends. We’ve all been addicted to trying to win our mother’s love at some […]

Narcissistic mother nightmare- the best practical guide on what to actually watch or read?

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