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rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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Grinch That Stole Christmas

    6 ways your family can be The Grinch that Stole Christmas and how to fix it.*     “The family inside is frightful   Escape looks so delightful.  Since it’s only about what we show Let me go. Let me go. Let me go. “**   The absence of emotional support in childhood can […]

6 Remarkable Ways your Broken Family are The Grinch at Christmas. 3 Ways it’s Easily Fixed.

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Therapy.   Ahhhh.  The word that can put the fear of God into almost anyone. Make grown men shudder and women feel like failures.   So – let’s talk about mine. Try and help you feel a little bit better about the whole process.   “What brings you in today?” my therapist asked. (They always […]

18 Amazing Things I’ve Learned About Therapy After Going for 40 years.

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Narcissistic Mother

Narcissistic Mothers Before launching straight into this Pandora’s Box, I just want to make the distinction between a Parent-Centred Mother and a Narcissistic Mother. From the outside, they can look similar and I don’t want there to be any confusion. The Narcissistic Mother doesn’t separate at any point from their child emotionally. There is no independence allowed at […]

The Quick Method to Help Find Out if Your Mother Really is a Narcissist.

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Dealing with parents

  Dealing with parents. I tell you – I’ve had a week of people having to spend some time with parents that they don’t really want to be around. Not sure if it’s the lockdowns or just life. But – I thought – heck Rebecca (I avoided swearing – did you see that?) – you […]

4 revolutionary steps to take when your parents make you feel like S$$t.

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Attachment Theory

Attachment theory is a psychological model that was developed in the late 1950s by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. It’s been widely used to study child development, but only recently has it begun to be applied to adult relationships. “About time”, I hear you say. Yes!! The idea of attachment theory is simple enough – […]

Want the Dirty Lowdown on Attachment Theory? You’re welcome.

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Crazy Family Christmas

Crazy family at Christmas? Settle in. Grab the popcorn. Lights down. Roll film. As a therapist, I’ve found that as adults, the way your family operates has the power to make your holidays great or a major sh*tstorm. And these family dynamics have the most power when they run under the surface, unseen, unknown, or […]

Want help with your really intolerable family at Christmas? You’re not alone.

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i hate christmas with my family

    Sit down. Grab a drink, and let’s have a chat. Firstly, this might seem a bit early, but it’s really not. Let’s give your brain time to sit with these before you use these tricks. This is an essential part of adopting new behaviour. So let it sink in for a bit. Secondly, […]

Need my 19 Favorite Ways to Survive Christmas with your Dysfunctional Family?

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Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

      Parenting with a narcissistic ex is difficult at the best of times. So here we are. Christmas co-parenting with  a person with narcissistic personality disorder is tough — really tough. It sucks balls, and it’s hard. Leaving the kids for visits can be heartbreaking. However, unless you have a court order stating […]

Christmas Co-parenting Nightmare? A Complete Guide to Confidently Dealing With Your Narcissistic Ex.

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Break up with a Narcissist

One more internet search for “Breaking up with a Narcissist” and you found me – viola – I’ve been waiting for you. Let’s get started. I’ve got your back as we rediscover who you are and what you want. You deserve to be free, happy, and loved. Let me help you leave the narcissist behind and embrace a brighter future.

Really Scared to Get Out of a Destructive Narcissistic Relationship?

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