Attachment theory is a psychological model that was developed in the late 1950s by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. It’s been widely used to study child development, but only recently has it begun to be applied to adult relationships. “About time”, I hear you say. Yes!! The idea of attachment theory is simple enough – […]

Healing Emotional Neglect:  The First Step. Estimated reading time: 11 minutes   “Hey, Mum!” I exclaimed as I opened the door. I was greeted with silence and frowned.  The house seemed empty and cold and dirty dishes were piled up in the sink. The living room had clothes drying everywhere and dust particles were floating […]

Hi. My name is Rebecca and I was addicted to getting my mother’s love and attention. “Hi, Rebecca”. I’m not the only one, and you’re not either. You’ve landed in the right place and I’m so glad you did. You’re among friends. We’ve all been addicted to trying to win our mother’s love at some […]

  Dismissive-Avoidant attachment. Very impressive sounding words right there. So let’s be impressive and start this whole thing off with a few facts. Love a fact. Firstly, we’re all humans and we’re all built to relate to other people. But this can get complicated. Secondly, let’s agree that people need each other. Sometimes as much, […]

Dealing with a Narcissistic mother needs some proven, rock-solid steps and you are in the right place, my new friend. I am so happy we have hooked up.  If you suspect your mum has narcissistic traits but haven’t done my quiz yet  – check it out here.  It should put your mind at rest.  Before […]

Narcissistic Mothers Before launching straight into this Pandora’s Box, I just want to make the distinction between a Parent-Centred Mother and a Narcissistic Mother.  From the outside, they can look similar and I don’t want there to be any confusion. The Narcissistic Mother doesn’t separate at any point from their child emotionally.  There is no […]

One more internet search for “Breaking up with a Narcissist” and you found me – viola – I’ve been waiting for you.

Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex is tough—really tough. It sucks balls, and it is hard. Leaving the kids for visits can be heartbreaking. I personally remember crying in the driveway of their house – well, I actually drove a few doors down – but I sat and had to fight the urge to rush in […]

You’ve just been the target of one of your boss’ self-absorbed self-centred and “I’m always right” tirades again.  It feels as though all the blood has drained from your body, you’re shaking, and you feel sick. Or angry. Or powerless. Or deeply humiliated.  Maybe all of these. If this is the effect your boss has […]