a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

Meditation

    My meditation practice began formally when I was about 14 and stumbled onto it myself.  I was always a bit airy, fairy, woozy, doozy, so I read some books on Spirituality and found a type I could do. In hindsight, a very lucky little camper. I do think sitting high in a tree […]

Trouble meditating? Want some advice on the authentic way to do it?

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Dealing with parents

  Dealing with parents. I tell you – I’ve had a week of people having to spend some time with parents that they don’t really want to be around. Not sure if it’s the lockdowns or just life. But – I thought – heck Rebecca (I avoided swearing – did you see that?) – you […]

4 revolutionary steps to take when your parents make you feel like S$$t.

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healing childhood emotional neglect

  Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is what didn’t happen to you or for you when you were a kid. The stuff that you needed to properly prepare you for life. It’s when parents don’t meet their children’s emotional needs. And – the problems caused by this can be long-term and last way into adulthood. If […]

How to do the 2nd Amazing Step That Heals Childhood Emotional Neglect.

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Deal with narcissistic mother

. Dealing with a Narcissistic mother needs some proven, rock-solid steps and you are in the right place, my new friend. I am so happy we have hooked up. I want to help you start on a journey to finding yourself and, toward living a life that’s yours. One where you take back control from […]

20 Proven Steps To Help You Deal With A Powerful, Narcissist Mother

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does he love me

  I remember sitting on the grass at Primary School, eating my sandwiches when my eyes were opened to the whole concept of love. I’m not even sure if I’d had a crush on anyone by then.  I did have some pretty cute cousins and Uncles whose attention made me blush – I know – […]

My Crazy Little Crush On My Cousin And What You Need to Feel Loved.

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Rejection. Abandonment. Fear of rejection

  Don’t Leave Me This Way… I’m scared shitless of rejection. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t. It paralyses me. Even when you guys unsubscribe – I have to catch myself. I’m going to guess that 90% of the people I chat with are making decisions from a place of fear.  Fear of […]

What Have You Actually Sacrificed To Avoid Rejection?

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kind unkind boundaries

    I don’t not like it.I don’t not care which restaurant we go to.We can go wherever you want for dinner – (unsaid: but it needs to be in my budget which you should instinctively know).  You choose.You need to do your best and get good marks.You can do what you want but there […]

Think Boundaries are Selfish? Do You Ask Clearly For What You Need?

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childhood wounds

  Continuing with my 80’s movie theme.  Not sure how it happened but I’m running with it.What led to me obsessing about “Gremlins”…apart from the fact that I saw it three times in the same week of 1984 with 3 different guys and pretended I hadn’t seen it before….which makes me shake my head.  I […]

Never ever feed him after midnight

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listening. relationship therapist. childhood emotional negelct. should i stay or go?

I’m starting to think it’s a week where I’m being far more controversial than I ever ever am.I just be feeling “pinchy” – that’s my partner’s term when I’m not as easygoing as I normally am. Just maybe I may pick fights.Anyways – my last email was about how I thought the first Top Gun […]

Do you get called “Pinchy?”

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