There is a truckload of confused people walking around out there at the moment.  Blank eyes.  Stares.  Think The Walking Dead.  Have you seen it too?I love a question.  I love an explanation.  I love to pull things absolutely apart and work out how they work.My mum used to have this little plastic kind of […]

      Parenting with a narcissistic ex is difficult at the best of times. So here we are. Christmas co-parenting with  a person with narcissistic personality disorder is tough — really tough. It sucks balls, and it’s hard. Leaving the kids for visits can be heartbreaking. However, unless you have a court order stating […]

    Sit down. Grab a drink, and let’s have a chat. Firstly, this might seem a bit early, but it’s really not. Let’s give your brain time to sit with these before you use these tricks. This is an essential part of adopting new behaviour. So let it sink in for a bit. Secondly, […]

6 ways your family can be The Grinch that Stole Christmas and how to fix it.* “The family inside is frightful   Escape looks so delightful.  Since it’s only about what we show Let me go. Let me go. Let me go. “** The absence of emotional support in childhood can be damaging and long-lasting. We […]

Crazy family at Christmas? Settle in. Grab the popcorn. Lights down. Roll film. As a therapist, I’ve found that as adults, the way your family operates has the power to make your holidays great or a major sh*tstorm. And these family dynamics have the most power when they run under the surface, unseen, unknown, or […]

  “I worry about being in therapy. I worry about not being in therapy”+ I never, ever worried about being told that I would be entering Withdrawal Therapy. Farewell Prozac my old friend.I won’t be seeing you again.Because the years are softly creeping.And I’ve stopped my crazy weeping.And the vision that was planted in my […]

I learned so much the day I died. My first memories of what I call my second life are of the movie ‘The Truth About Cats and Dogs’ being played on repeat above my head, and the light in the room never being dimmed. For days. And days. And I remember my one thought being, […]

The Absolute Truth about Secrets & Shame. It was a beautiful autumn day in a gorgeous, leafy suburb of Sydney. I was around 7 or 8 and nearly vomiting with anticipation. I can still smell the wet leaves and feel the presence of my dad beside me as we walked up the steep hill from […]

3rd Step to Healing Childhood Emotional Neglect. Childhood Emotional Neglect, or “CEN” for short, is a term coined by Dr. Karyl McBride. It’s the emotional neglect of children that occurs in families where at least one parent is emotionally unavailable due to their own unresolved childhood trauma and/or addiction issues. I’m assuming you’ve done my […]