a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

Narcissist Breakup

Narcissist Breakup. Wah Wah Wee Wah. Buckle up. Here we go — you are doing this. I am really excited because we can get down to the nitty-gritty and get you outta there. You might have been scared for months (years). It’s normal to be petrified to the point of shaking, to lose weight, drink […]

Need the Ultimate Checklist for Breaking up with a Clever Narcissist?

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boundaries arent selfish

    I don’t not like it.I don’t not care which restaurant we go to.We can go wherever you want for dinner – (unsaid: but it needs to be in my budget which you should instinctively know).  You choose.You need to do your best and get good marks.You can do what you want but there […]

Think Boundaries are Selfish? Do You Ask Clearly For What You Need?

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Married At First Sight

I get asked about this show at least once a week.And you know what – I admit with great shame that I used to watch it.  And even – gulp – look forward to it.I need therapy – I know.  You’ll see what I mean.Anyways.  I’ll put you out of the misery of guessing – […]

It’s Gone Way Too Far.

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feeling alone in my relationship

The weather is pretty shitty today – here in Queensland.  Dark, rainy – just glum really. If a day could have an emotion – and I like to think they do – today is lonely. How do I know – well, I spent a hell of a lot of my childhood lonely.  Mostly because I […]

Why am I so crazy lonely and confused when I’ve got a partner?

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Apologize

We don’t eat takeaway food a lot.  I could pretend I am all holier than thou and “clean eating” or whatever trend is happening now.  BUT – my man doesn’t like it – or doesn’t like paying for it – or prefers my cooking – something like that.   So I always feel a bit […]

How to Apologize Like You Don’t Actually Mean a Word of It.

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4 Knights of Divorce

We’re doing TV shows again today.  🙂  Can you tell there’s a bit of escapism happening in my life at the moment? My favourite historical show is Outlander.  Is it historical if it’s time travel?  Let me know your thoughts. BUT – I have mixed feelings about the latest season….Plus, they’re releasing it one episode […]

How the Four Sneaky Horsemen Want to Ruin Your Relationship

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does he love me

  I remember sitting on the grass at Primary School, eating my sandwiches when my eyes were opened to the whole concept of love. I’m not even sure if I’d had a crush on anyone by then.  I did have some pretty cute cousins and Uncles whose attention made me blush – I know – […]

My Crazy Little Crush On My Cousin And What You Need to Feel Loved.

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Rejection. Abandonment. Fear of rejection

  Don’t Leave Me This Way… I’m scared shitless of rejection. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t. It paralyses me. Even when you guys unsubscribe – I have to catch myself. I’m going to guess that 90% of the people I chat with are making decisions from a place of fear.  Fear of […]

What Have You Actually Sacrificed To Avoid Rejection?

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unhappy with marriage

I’ve just plopped myself in a big old comfy chair. Dinner is cooking.  And I feel like a cuddly old Grandma who is about to open a dusty book from the shelf – and tell you a story.Listen up, kids.  I’m about to tell you an age-old tale – from generations ago to now. It […]

My Jack And Diane Story

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