a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

marriage counseling, romantic relationship, relationship secrets, airing dirty laundry in public

It was one of those “what does your parent do” show-and-tell thingy’s at school. I wasn’t there but if I could have a dollar for every text or phone call I received after it – I would be swanning around Monaco in my private yacht.  Think – Below Deck on steriods. Angelic looking little Drew […]

Should You Ever Share Your Private Relationship Secrets in Public?

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feeling alone in my relationship

The weather is pretty shitty today – here in Queensland.  Dark, rainy – just glum really. If a day could have an emotion – and I like to think they do – today is lonely. How do I know – well, I spent a hell of a lot of my childhood lonely.  Mostly because I […]

Why am I so crazy lonely and confused when I’ve got a partner?

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Apologize

We don’t eat takeaway food a lot.  I could pretend I am all holier than thou and “clean eating” or whatever trend is happening now.  BUT – my man doesn’t like it – or doesn’t like paying for it – or prefers my cooking – something like that.   So I always feel a bit […]

How to Apologize Like You Don’t Actually Mean a Word of It.

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4 Knights of Divorce

We’re doing TV shows again today.  🙂  Can you tell there’s a bit of escapism happening in my life at the moment? My favourite historical show is Outlander.  Is it historical if it’s time travel?  Let me know your thoughts. BUT – I have mixed feelings about the latest season….Plus, they’re releasing it one episode […]

How the Four Sneaky Horsemen Want to Ruin Your Relationship

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does he love me

  I remember sitting on the grass at Primary School, eating my sandwiches when my eyes were opened to the whole concept of love. I’m not even sure if I’d had a crush on anyone by then.  I did have some pretty cute cousins and Uncles whose attention made me blush – I know – […]

My Crazy Little Crush On My Cousin And What You Need to Feel Loved.

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Rejection. Abandonment. Fear of rejection

  Don’t Leave Me This Way… I’m scared shitless of rejection. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t. It paralyses me. Even when you guys unsubscribe – I have to catch myself. I’m going to guess that 90% of the people I chat with are making decisions from a place of fear.  Fear of […]

What Have You Actually Sacrificed To Avoid Rejection?

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kind unkind boundaries

    I don’t not like it.I don’t not care which restaurant we go to.We can go wherever you want for dinner – (unsaid: but it needs to be in my budget which you should instinctively know).  You choose.You need to do your best and get good marks.You can do what you want but there […]

Think Boundaries are Selfish? Do You Ask Clearly For What You Need?

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expectations marriage

  So – I didn’t get around to writing yesterday.  Mea Culpa.It was a busy-arse day.  And for one solitary reason. We were making Polish Kabanosy.  Stuffing those slippery sucker sausage casings with a mountain of meat I’d cured – and then smoking it. My partner is Polish – did I tell you that before?  And […]

Yesterday’s Blog Post is Buried in a Pile of …

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unhappy with marriage

I’ve just plopped myself in a big old comfy chair. Dinner is cooking.  And I feel like a cuddly old Grandma who is about to open a dusty book from the shelf – and tell you a story.Listen up, kids.  I’m about to tell you an age-old tale – from generations ago to now. It […]

My Jack And Diane Story

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