a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

marriage counseling, romantic relationship, relationship secrets, airing dirty laundry in public

It was one of those “what does your parent do” show-and-tell thingy’s at school. I wasn’t there but if I could have a dollar for every text or phone call I received after it – I would be swanning around Monaco in my private yacht.  Think – Below Deck on steriods. Angelic looking little Drew […]

Should You Ever Share Your Private Relationship Secrets in Public?

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"icks"

Things I fell in love with:The way he breathed.  The way he ate.  The noise he made when he slept.  His smell.  His voice.  His feet.  His hands.  His hair.  His clothes.  HIs car.  His job.  His taste in music.  9 years, 3 kids, one marriage pass byThings that made me go “ick”The way he breathed.  The way he ate.  The noise he made when he slept.  His smell.  His voice.  His […]

Hit me with your Marriage “icks” . Hit me slowly. Hit me Quick.

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couple fight blame

  There’s a whole different set of clients that I often see quite often.  Not Jack & Diane from yesterday.   More Mortal Kombat.  God, I loved that game.  I think my computer game addiction began right back in the 90s with the Nintendo, Mortal Kombat and Sonic.  Not so much Atari – that was boring as […]

Do You Fight Like Judge Judy or Mortal Kombat?

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change your partner

I know, I know…you just want to help them.  Your motives are pure….(hmm we can talk about that another day).

You want nothing more than to show them what you see so clearly about them.

But it will mess up your relationship.

Good relationships are horizontal.  One line right next to another.  No line higher than the other.

Want to know how to help your partner change? Read this first.

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does he love me

  I remember sitting on the grass at Primary School, eating my sandwiches when my eyes were opened to the whole concept of love. I’m not even sure if I’d had a crush on anyone by then.  I did have some pretty cute cousins and Uncles whose attention made me blush – I know – […]

My Crazy Little Crush On My Cousin And What You Need to Feel Loved.

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Rejection. Abandonment. Fear of rejection

  Don’t Leave Me This Way… I’m scared shitless of rejection. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t. It paralyses me. Even when you guys unsubscribe – I have to catch myself. I’m going to guess that 90% of the people I chat with are making decisions from a place of fear.  Fear of […]

What Have You Actually Sacrificed To Avoid Rejection?

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expectations marriage

  So – I didn’t get around to writing yesterday.  Mea Culpa.It was a busy-arse day.  And for one solitary reason. We were making Polish Kabanosy.  Stuffing those slippery sucker sausage casings with a mountain of meat I’d cured – and then smoking it. My partner is Polish – did I tell you that before?  And […]

Yesterday’s Blog Post is Buried in a Pile of …

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Confused about my relationship

There is a truckload of confused people walking around out there at the moment.  Blank eyes.  Stares.  Think The Walking Dead.  Have you seen it too?I love a question.  I love an explanation.  I love to pull things absolutely apart and work out how they work.My mum used to have this little plastic kind of […]

Forget Death Adders – I killed a Handy Adder.

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