a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

Expectations, expect, relationship expectations

About two weeks ago I was pissing my pants excited.  I live in a small town and the food is – um – not very adventurous.  I’d heard about a German Bakery Van that would be at the local market.  And it was consuming me.It’s run by a woman whose father had taught her to bake […]

Played by The Neighbourhood Pretzel

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Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex

Co-parenting with a Narcissistic Ex is tough—really tough. It sucks balls, and it is hard. Leaving the kids for visits can be heartbreaking. I personally remember crying in the driveway of their house – well, I actually drove a few doors down – but I sat and had to fight the urge to rush in […]

Are You Ready to Co-Parent Healthy Children with a Narcissistic Ex?

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end my marriage

I’m going to hit you with a set of clues, and you can decide which one was the decider for my 1st marriage ending: Choosing “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” as our wedding song- the lyrics “everybody needs a little time away” Me saying “It’s not my fault you are such a stupid human being” […]

The Eye-Opening Day Bruce Willis Ended My 10 Year Marriage

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couple fight blame

  There’s a whole different set of clients that I often see quite often.  Not Jack & Diane from yesterday.   More Mortal Kombat.  God, I loved that game.  I think my computer game addiction began right back in the 90s with the Nintendo, Mortal Kombat and Sonic.  Not so much Atari – that was boring as […]

Do You Fight Like Judge Judy or Mortal Kombat?

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feeling alone in my relationship

The weather is pretty shitty today – here in Queensland.  Dark, rainy – just glum really. If a day could have an emotion – and I like to think they do – today is lonely. How do I know – well, I spent a hell of a lot of my childhood lonely.  Mostly because I […]

Why am I so crazy lonely and confused when I’ve got a partner?

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I know, I know…you just want to help them.  Your motives are pure….(hmm we can talk about that another day).

You want nothing more than to show them what you see so clearly about them.

But it will mess up your relationship.

Good relationships are horizontal.  One line right next to another.  No line higher than the other.

Want to know how to help your partner change? Read this first.

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unhappy with marriage

I’ve just plopped myself in a big old comfy chair. Dinner is cooking.  And I feel like a cuddly old Grandma who is about to open a dusty book from the shelf – and tell you a story.Listen up, kids.  I’m about to tell you an age-old tale – from generations ago to now. It […]

My Jack And Diane Story

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  It’s highly unprofessional of me but I’m going to tell you a running bet/tally I have with myself when I sit down with a new couple.It goes a little somethin’ like this:I’ve just managed to get the sound AND video working on my Zoom – we’ve all spent a good 10 minutes saying “Can […]

“I wanna tell you something real quick…”

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job loss marriage

  Firstly, thanks for all your answers yesterday.  I’ll start writing some emails that are about the things you mentioned.I love feeling like I have a “real” purpose. And that’s writing emails you’re interested in.On that note – let’s talk about having a “real” purpose.It’s something that’s been slapping a lot of people in the […]

The Dreaded Pink Slip Arrived.

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