Don't lecture your partner - ever. - A Life in Perfect Balance

a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - INTUITIVE THERAPIST

Is It Too Early To Mention The Tiger

I recently moved from a big city to a really small country town in Queensland Australia and my house is about 5 minutes from a beach. Chances are, when I've written this  that that's where I am. Feet in the sand, staring at the ocean and working out whether or not I want to go in. Strange thing here is that the water is really warm - like a bath. To be honest - it can feel a bit creepy on your skin. So - I don't always go in.
I'll have food on my clothes for absolute sure and my care factor about that is a big ZERO.



lecture partner parent
Short and Sweet.  Which is how I tend to deliver info to my clients – even my friends probably.  Might get some therapy for that. :P.

I could fill the page with a story or words that really don’t say a lot.

But – yo – we are a bit beyond small talk – yes?

Here it is…

Parenting your partner or
Preaching to your partner or
Lecturing your partner or
Diagnosing your partner
will always, always, always trigger their resistance.
And never in a good way.

I know, I know…you just want to help them.  Your motives are pure….(hmm we can talk about that another day).

You want nothing more than to show them what you see so clearly about them.

But it will mess up your relationship.

Good relationships are horizontal.  One line right next to another.  No line higher than the other.

Vertical relationships really mess things up – where one of you is – or believes themselves to be, further up or further down the totem pole than the other.

Your partner does not need any more parents.  

My Lord – we are dealing with enough stuff from our actual childhood without triggering it in the present – do you hear me?  

Do not parent or preach.

You will summon a tiger who will fiercely protect her young. (inner child).  At any cost.  

Even the cost of your relationship.

How do you stop that?  How do you recognise that’s going on?

I hear it loud and clear like a badly out-of-tune guitar.  Very, very quickly.

That’s my thang.

If you suspect it’s happening in your relationship or marriage.

Call me – call me now 🙂

But really –

I gotcha
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I can’t wait to be your wingman.

Chat tomorrow
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