I get asked about this show at least once a week.And you know what – I admit with great shame that I used to watch it.  And even – gulp – look forward to it.I need therapy – I know.  You’ll see what I mean.Anyways.  I’ll put you out of the misery of guessing – […]

The weather is pretty shitty today – here in Queensland.  Dark, rainy – just glum really. If a day could have an emotion – and I like to think they do – today is lonely. How do I know – well, I spent a hell of a lot of my childhood lonely.  Mostly because I […]

I know, I know…you just want to help them.  Your motives are pure….(hmm we can talk about that another day).

You want nothing more than to show them what you see so clearly about them.

But it will mess up your relationship.

Good relationships are horizontal.  One line right next to another.  No line higher than the other.

We don’t eat takeaway food a lot.  I could pretend I am all holier than thou and “clean eating” or whatever trend is happening now.  BUT – my man doesn’t like it – or doesn’t like paying for it – or prefers my cooking – something like that.   So I always feel a bit […]

But don’t let Dismissive-Avoidant attachment fool you.

People with Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment can look fiercely independent, or even like Narcissists. But – their problems are usually all about low self-esteem. The same as someone with an Anxious Attachment.

  Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is what didn’t happen to you or for you when you were a kid. The stuff that you needed to properly prepare you for life. It’s when parents don’t meet their children’s emotional needs. And – the problems caused by this can be long-term and last way into adulthood. If […]

  I remember sitting on the grass at Primary School, eating my sandwiches when my eyes were opened to the whole concept of love. I’m not even sure if I’d had a crush on anyone by then.  I did have some pretty cute cousins and Uncles whose attention made me blush – I know – […]

  Don’t Leave Me This Way… I’m scared shitless of rejection. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t. It paralyses me. Even when you guys unsubscribe – I have to catch myself. I’m going to guess that 90% of the people I chat with are making decisions from a place of fear.  Fear of […]

  Continuing with my 80’s movie theme.  Not sure how it happened but I’m running with it.What led to me obsessing about “Gremlins”…apart from the fact that I saw it three times in the same week of 1984 with 3 different guys and pretended I hadn’t seen it before….which makes me shake my head.  I […]