a life in perfect balance

rebecca chapman  - relationship whisperer

Welcome to my Blog

Hey there to you. Welcome to my Margarita-style blog.  We like it salty and sweet here.  Salty language but with sweet truths. Cannot wait to hear if you have any topics you'd like me to cover or even your comments.  Let's do this

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I like it salty and sweet

Deal with narcissistic mother

. Dealing with a Narcissistic mother needs some proven, rock-solid steps and you are in the right place, my new friend. I am so happy we have hooked up. I want to help you start on a journey to finding yourself and, toward living a life that’s yours. One where you take back control from […]

20 Proven Steps To Help You Deal With A Powerful, Narcissist Mother

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dismissive avoidant attachment

  Dismissive Avoidant attachment. Very impressive sounding words right there. So let’s be impressive and start this whole thing off with a few facts. Love a fact. Firstly, we’re all humans, and we’re all built to relate to other people. But this can get complicated. Secondly, let’s agree that people need each other. Sometimes as […]

The Ins & Outs of Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment

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Narcissist Breakup

Narcissist Breakup. Wah Wah Wee Wah. Buckle up. Here we go — you are doing this. I am really excited because we can get down to the nitty-gritty and get you outta there. You might have been scared for months (years). It’s normal to be petrified to the point of shaking, to lose weight, drink […]

Need the Ultimate Checklist for Breaking up with a Clever Narcissist?

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Break up with a Narcissist

One more internet search for “Breaking up with a Narcissist” and you found me – viola – I’ve been waiting for you. Let’s get started. I’ve got your back as we rediscover who you are and what you want. You deserve to be free, happy, and loved. Let me help you leave the narcissist behind and embrace a brighter future.

Really Scared to Get Out of a Destructive Narcissistic Relationship?

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Withdrawal Therapy. Mental Health Awareness. Childhood Emotional Neglect. Calmness & Resilience Therapist. Phone and Online Bookings. Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Parenting.

    Withdrawal Therapy. “Oh –  Let’s go”  *Clap* “How do you think I’m gonna get alongWithout you when you’re gone?You took me for everything that I hadAnd kicked me out on my own Are you happy, are you satisfied?How long can you stand the heat?Out of the doorway, the bullets ripTo the sound of […]

Withdrawal Therapy. Another dose bites the dust. And another one gone…Part 2

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Expectations, expect, relationship expectations

About two weeks ago I was pissing my pants excited.  I live in a small town and the food is – um – not very adventurous.  I’d heard about a German Bakery Van that would be at the local market.  And it was consuming me.It’s run by a woman whose father had taught her to bake […]

Played by The Neighbourhood Pretzel

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4 Knights of Divorce

We’re doing TV shows again today.  🙂  Can you tell there’s a bit of escapism happening in my life at the moment? My favourite historical show is Outlander.  Is it historical if it’s time travel?  Let me know your thoughts. BUT – I have mixed feelings about the latest season….Plus, they’re releasing it one episode […]

How the Four Sneaky Horsemen Want to Ruin Your Relationship

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boundaries arent selfish

I don’t not like it.I don’t not care which restaurant we go to.We can go wherever you want for dinner – (unsaid: but it needs to be in my budget which you should instinctively know).  You choose.You need to do your best and get good marks.You can do what you want but there will be […]

Think Boundaries are Selfish? Do You Ask Clearly For What You Need?

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therapy

Therapy.   Ahhhh.  The word that can put the fear of God into almost anyone. Make grown men shudder and women feel like failures.   So – let’s talk about mine. Try and help you feel a little bit better about the whole process.   “What brings you in today?” my therapist asked. (They always […]

18 Amazing Things I’ve Learned About Therapy After Going for 40 years.

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Dealing with parents

  Dealing with parents. I tell you – I’ve had a week of people having to spend some time with parents that they don’t really want to be around. Not sure if it’s the lockdowns or just life. But – I thought – heck Rebecca (I avoided swearing – did you see that?) – you […]

4 revolutionary steps to take when your parents make you feel like S$$t.

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